Well I wish my children would get on! I have a 13 year old and a six year old, my six year old has the adhd diagnosis (pending blood work to rule out thyroid etc) and there is lot of pressure, my eldest finds it very hard to deal with my attention demanding younger one and this creates alot of stress for me, I suppose I wish for abit of harmony lol! I have been open with my teenage daughter about the difficulties the little one has and she does try to understand but sometimes it is like world war three! x
So excited to have started the course! My three house rules are *be kind to each other * do not take other people's possessions without their permission (hope this will reduce friction between my kids) *we do not shout Poster to be designed and put on fridge tomorrow! 😊
My 3 house rules be kind to each other no fighting and no shouting
My son is only little so have made rules accordingly! 1. we only use our hands, arms & legs for cuddles, high fives and playing. 2. we get dressed and undressed by ourselves. J can use the dressing mat & timer. 3. we use kind words when we're talking to other people. We're on day 2 of using a mat and timer to help with getting dressed...it's hard going but feels nice having something we're aiming for.
They sound really good! How old is your son? X
He'll be 4 in december...not diagnosed but we're in the process of getting a referral (his dad has adhd). lots of issues with aggression and frustration so it'll be nice to have some rules to refer to :) just out of interest what traits/symptoms have you noticed with your 6 year old in the last 2/3 years? x
Ah ok I see. Well when Hollie was much smaller 2-3 years I knew her tantrums were more than just toddler behaviour. There was alot of anger fustration and screaming. All the time. As time has progressed this has manifested itself into impulsive attention seeking and hyper behaviour. She cant sit still even to eat a meal. And will jump on and off Anything and everything all the time. She is hugely inattentive and flies from one activity to the next. In a nutshell its like she has batteries that never run out. Worringly she has no sense of safety or danger. School have said her learning is impacted by her inattention. As the months progress I see these behaviours be coming more and more apparent. X
Ok, thanks so much for the info that's really interesting to know. We've got our first appointment with the 'behaviour team' tomorrow so will see how that goes! We're noticing the no sense of safety, seems to be more apparent as his friends are getting older and more aware than he is....he's happy to talk to any strangers too! x
Hi, how are you? How did you get on?
Hey, not bad thanks. Finding since starting the morning routine that the aggression is much better?! Seeing a family support worker at the mo, she seems to think a lot of the distracted behaviour, meltdowns, frustration etc is fairly typical for a 3/4 yr old boy....but annoyingly he's not shown any of his usual behaviour the last twice she's seen him! She's not qualified to do any sort of diagnosis and i think she's trying to be reassuring and offer suggestions for different techniques to deal with the behaviour. It just feels a bit like I can see a pattern/symptoms but other ppl can't? I'm probably just super sensitive/aware of it cos my brother and husband have adhd...I guess we'll just have to do our best for now and see how he goes next year at school. Does your daughter have any sensory issues? My son has quite a lot with clothes, noises etc. Took him swimming yesterday and he got really anxious going into the pool, started hitting me etc, i think it's the lights and noise. Sorry for the rambling message. How's your week been? x