Sat, 06 Jan 2018 08:45:49 GMT
We all do it. Sometimes, we're hard on ourselves because we imagine that self-criticism will motivate us. Self-criticism, on a consistent basis, leads us in a negative direction.
Instead, what if we were to gain some perspective from our thoughts?
Neff (2003) elaborates on self-compassion and its effect on our well-being. Self-compassion recognizes our fallibility as and our connection to human beings. This way of being with ourselves in a kind and non-judgmental way inspires self-awareness in a balanced way.
"I suck at this."
Alternatives: "I'm not so good at this right now. It doesn't feel so good."
"It's okay. Some people struggle with this too."
Neff, K.D. (2003). The development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2, 223-250.