I'm sorry to hear that your residence has not served enough good food. I find many places give a lot of starches. Breads, pastas, rice, cookies, cakes. If you can have a good diet of fruits, vegetables, lean meats that is great. I have not seen the utensils looking like "sporks". For some elders finger food is better. There can also be a challenge that elders with dementia don't eat much. I have had a few folks who will only eat ice cream. I am here to tell you that I have had several folks survive on only ice cream and Ensure. At this point we are looking to quality of days, not as much quantity. ( that said a good Mediterranean diet is best!).
Poor food in facilities? Important to look at this when evaluating communities for a loved one. I have seen a skilled facility where ALL the food was pureed. Glop. Green Glop, White Glop, Brown Glop. Always important to discuss with the administrator about food preferences, needs for a chopped diet, or finger food.