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Researchers say how we praise our children matters.How do you praise your child?

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Mon, 20 Jun 2016 00:01:47 GMT

Researchers like Carol Dweck say that it is important to explain to children what they are doing right. When we say, ‘You are so smart!, we don’t give children information that can help them solve similar problems in the future. A better form of praise, Dweck notes, would be something like, ‘I see that you tried different options until you were able to solve the problem,’ or, ‘I see you checked your spelling in the dictionary to spell the word correctly.’ By giving information, we create what Dweck calls a ‘growth mindset’ that helps children see their intelligence as something they can grow, as opposed to developing a ‘fixed mindset’ that creates the belief that you are either smart or not smart, and there is nothing you can do to develop your intelligence. What do you think? How do you praise your school-aged child? What type of praise did you receive as a child and how does this influence your parenting? What advice do you have about giving praise to school-aged children?