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Thoughts on why Ryan stayed silent

truecrimejunkie87
Tue, 24 May 2022 22:53:45 GMT

There are so many people whether in court or on discussion boards saying they don’t understand why Ryan participated in this crime or why he kept his mouth shut if Bo is in fact the murderer. Let’s assume for a minute that Ryan’s testimony is mostly true. On October 23rd Ryan found himself in the middle of a wooded area with a person he learns has murdered someone. He has no cell phone, and no vehicle. We can all say that we would not have participated in gathering the firewood, or helping move her body, or placing it on the pile of wood. But none of us really know how we would respond in a situation like that where we are under extreme stress or fear. How many of us would truly run to the police afterwards? Knowing we had just participated in committing a heinous crime and had no money to get a lawyer (or family to turn to for help). Knowing that the justice system is not always just, especially for indigent people. Also knowing that it’s your word against someone else’s, and that that someone is a member of one of the most prominent families in the area. I’m not saying that what Ryan did was right. It wasn’t. But knowing that humans are flawed, and that the American justice system is flawed, I can see why a person like Ryan, who (presumably) found themselves in what must have felt like an impossible situation, would not confess sooner.

Osmosis
Wed, 25 May 2022 00:11:17 GMT

Ok but ryan tried to take his life at least twice after this he felt that he would rather die than live with this guilt I feel at that point it was a selfish option and he had no regard for Tara's loved ones , he felt he was at the end and still didn't say anything to anyone

truecrimejunkie87
Wed, 25 May 2022 00:49:43 GMT

Mental health, depression, anxiety and suicide are not rational. You can’t rationalize irrational thoughts or behavior. Make no mistake, I don’t believe that keeping that secret was the “right” thing to do. Tara did not deserve any of what happened to her. Her family did not deserve the pain they’ve endured. It’s just that when I step back, and look at the story without any preconceived notion of how things SHOULD have transpired that day (and every day after), I can kind of see why things would go the way he said they did.

Osmosis
Wed, 25 May 2022 03:40:45 GMT

Agree I lost a very close friend too suicide and had discussions with him previously and he guaranteed to me why he would never do it 😔 but when pushed to certain limits it can trigger the person and they can just snap so I'm not saying at that stage he had to be rational but surviving that ordeal gave him time to reassess his life , his values 15 years is along time to hold this burden I don't know if I 100% agree with his narrative As I don't believe it is the whole truth , but I feel more truth was in his telling than ever came out of bo's mouth