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Where are the parents?

bagheera1
Wed, 03 Apr 2019 02:52:40 GMT

We heard from Dixie, Bo’s mom. But who is his father? Where is he and why doesn’t his bar surface in searches?

bagheera1
Wed, 03 Apr 2019 02:54:01 GMT

*name*. Not bar

skidmarks
Wed, 03 Apr 2019 17:11:11 GMT

Good Q, there was an older white haired man sitting beside Dixie and behind Bo at trial, must have been Dixie’s BF ??? , I never saw the guy interact with Bo at breaks.... he really never moved, said anything , showed no emotion, I would have said he was dead but I walked out behind him and Dixie at lunch , heard him say something about getting an item from his truck ....

southernmessexpress
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 01:11:46 GMT

Fatherless Bo makes sense looking at his problematic behaviors and unstable emotional/social functioning. Sadly, growing up with out a fatherly figure has many negative effects...

realnachosnow
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 03:01:26 GMT

@mess I generally don’t like to play psychiatrist but since you already have I’ll dabble too as the water is already warm. Having a one parent home is not ideal as the child may have lasting questions as to how relationships should or shouldn’t operate. Not all children who experience sole parental custody or those who have been placed with one parent over another are not inherently in more danger of developing any particular psychosis over another. However it’s far more common to find intimacy and trust issues in these children as they age out of adolescence. I’m not sure how Bo’s parents relationship was or what kind of split they had. I also am not fully aware of how or why Ryan’s parents split. I do remember hearing,on the podcast, a friend of Ryan’s say Ryan went to live with his father (possibly middle school) and the younger brothers stayed home with his mother. I’m not aware of the intricacies of that dynamic but any child who had to chose or was told to go live with their father could have lasting effects on how they viewed women in general if that decision wasn ’t 100% what they wanted. Again this is complete conjecture just like your post was but I thought I’d add a similar but slightly slanted view for others to wrestle with. Double edge sword kinda thing

twopancakes
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 05:47:24 GMT

and yet the vast majority of people raised in single parent households never burn a body or rape women at gunpoint...

realnachosnow
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 06:47:57 GMT

Nail on the head, very good @2pcs! Both men would be the aberration not the norm

twopancakes
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 06:59:02 GMT

i’m a psychologist

dragonflys
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 07:26:23 GMT

Let's all step back. Are you all really going to blame this on parents?

twopancakes
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 07:29:05 GMT

sure looks like it

dragonflys
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 07:31:28 GMT

🤔

hehaspostpartum
Sat, 06 Apr 2019 09:32:04 GMT

No. But but one must consider why Bo is the way he is. Impacts on his childhood development have molded him into the sadistic narcissist that he is. I like miss_bee’s psychological profiling assessment best lol. She’s nailed it a few times.

hehaspostpartum
Mon, 08 Apr 2019 05:12:32 GMT

Interesting article published today by USA TODAY. It states “_...the boy crisis resides where dads do not reside._ *_The American Psychological Association found that father absence predicts the profile of both the bully and the bullied’s poor social skills, and the bully’s poor grades and self-esteem. According to a study in the Journal of Marriage and Family, every 1% increase in fatherlessness in a neighborhood predicts a  3% increase in adolescent violence._*”

hehaspostpartum
Mon, 08 Apr 2019 05:18:45 GMT

Thought I’d share since there was some debate about parenting styles and lack of parental involvement impacting a child/person’s development. I found the article vuuury interesting and informative. . . “*_It starts early. Before six months of age, the less interaction a boy has with his dad, the lower his mental competence. And dad-deprivation is a significant predictor of the increasing rate of male suicide, drug overdose, obesity and withdrawal into video game addiction._*” https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/2019/04/07/males-risk-boy-crisis-identity-america-future-addiction-suicide-column/3331366002/